Custom modal form via server side ajax call

I really like DataTables! I am now trying to incorporate the editor. I have a summary of the data for each row in datatables. I then want to use my own modal which retrieves a detailed record from the server for that record. Is there an example that shows how to incorporate your own modal instead of using the data from datatables to fill the default modal? Basically I need to only pass the record id which I have in a hidden column to call my modal. Then once the update is complete and the modal closes is there a way to update datatables manually or do you need to just reload all the data from the server?

Thanks for any help or tips...