datatable going unresponsive for large table

hello all,
in my table i have 40,000 row with 80 column and i also using server side processing. i wanted to load all the data in one page is this possible using this library?
also my problem is that while loading the data it take lot of time and after some time the page is going to be unresponsive.Also i does not want to use pagination and lazy loading with table scrolling.
in my current scenario i am able to add 10,000 records with 80 columns. can we achieve 40000 rows with 80 column on one page with out using pagination and lazy loading? if yes how?